When the Same Reaction Keeps Coming Back
Relational and somatic therapy for the patterns that get in the way of what matters to you.
Online · 20 minutes · no obligation
Maybe you recognize yourself here
However it shows up, you might find yourself reacting in ways that don't quite match what you'd actually want.
Many of the people I work with feel like something keeps repeating. Sometimes they don’t understand why. Sometimes they understand it very well — and it still happens.
You find yourself anticipating — a shift in tone or a slightly longer silence, and you’re already imagining what might happen.
You often adapt to other people, sometimes putting aside what you want or need.
You withdraw or pull back when things feel like too much, and then may feel isolated by the distance that creates.
You often wonder if you reacted the right way, asked for too much, said too much, or should have done things differently.
François Lacharité
Relational and Somatic Therapist
When you'd rather react differently
You may have already thought about it, read about it, or spent time in therapy. But even when you understand what's going on, understanding isn't always enough to do things differently.
Some of these ways of reacting may have developed early, in situations where they helped protect you.
What matters isn't retracing every moment when it took shape, but looking at what happens when the reaction comes back — in your body, in what you feel, and in the way you are in relationship — and making room for what can become different.
How we can work together
Individual Therapy
We start with what’s happening between you today and what each of you wants. Together, we slow down the reactions to look at what keeps repeating and what’s happening for each of you.
Couples Therapy
We start with where you are today and what you want for yourself. Together, we explore what gets in the way when the same reactions come back.
If you recognize yourself in what you’ve just read, we can simply talk about it.
The connection call is 20 minutes. It’s free and there’s no obligation.
What Makes NARM Different
My work is grounded in NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model), an approach to developmental trauma that focuses on what is still happening today — in your thoughts, emotions, body, and relationships.
We start with what matters to you, rather than what you should change. The aim isn’t to fix a reaction, but to understand more clearly what happens when it shows up, so that more choice becomes possible.
What a Session Looks Like
You don’t need to have everything figured out before you come in, or know exactly what the problem is. We start with what matters to you that day and what you’d like to see change.
As you talk about it, I may ask questions and help you slow down around what’s happening — what you’re feeling, what you’re telling yourself, and what you notice in your body — so we can go beyond what you already understand about the situation.
We can start with something recent rather than going back through your whole history. Sometimes what matters most isn’t only what happened, but what’s happening for you in the moment as you talk about it.
Testimonials
A glimpse into what some people have experienced working with me.
“François is a very good therapist, with a strong presence, a lot of insight, experience, and a keen sense of observation. I feel less alone, and even though my situation is complicated, things are moving forward little by little. I recommend him to anyone who wants to find or develop a more authentic sense of connection.”
— Olivier B.
“What stood out most to me was François’s authenticity, warmth, and empathy. He created a calm and welcoming space where I could explore what was arising in the present moment. François offered exactly the balance of guidance and space to listen that I needed.”
— Katja F.
Sessions Online · in English or French · individual or couples
Naturopathy/naturotherapy receipts are available. Coverage depends on your insurance plan.
A First Conversation to See if It Feels Right
You don’t need to know exactly what to say. The free 20-minute video call is simply a chance to get to know each other and ask your questions.
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Despite all your efforts, something might still be pulling you back into the same automatic reactions.
Anxiety returns, your body stays on high alert, or you feel disconnected from yourself and others.
Together, we explore what is happening in you — in your body, your emotions, and your relationships — to gently untangle the protective patterns keeping your nervous system in survival mode.
You are not broken
Your system is still in protection mode.
Background anxiety, fatigue that never lifts, the feeling of spinning your wheels — these are not flaws. They are survival reflexes. To protect you in the past, your nervous system learned to take refuge in thoughts or in the needs of others.
When these reflexes have run their course, they become your blocks
My approach helps you re-inhabit your body so your system can finally release the pressure — and transform isolation into a real sense of safety in connection.
Relational and Somatic Therapist
Online sessions · Montreal, Quebec
Email: contact@francoislacharite.com
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